While on your road to parenting, shifting your approach is a significant transition. You can anticipate a bumpy ride, as you and your child learn new form of association. Peaceful parenting doesn’t imply to having no stress at all. It is rather a zone, where you can experience the stress getting in and moving out, without letting it dominate yourself. You allow it to traverse through you, and then you embrace your child with a smile.
Here are 5 useful tips to steer you on the path towards a more peaceful connection with your child:
- Begin with Yourself
Peaceful parenting begins with you, particularly through your attitude to control your own sentiments in front of your child. When you are aware of the sensations in your body, it helps you be more in control of your reflexes in order to keep cool in the heat of the moment. Thus you restrict yourself from that instant urge to reprimand your child, who seems like the enemy. It is always advisable that you delay taking any action until you feel more composed. This aids you in becoming a better role model for your child, and rewards you with fewer tantrums and more of happiness, empathy and peace.
- Connect with Your Child
You can develop a very positive and fulfilling relationship with your children if you concentrate on investing your quality time in bonding with them. With your love and attention, your child will find it easier to confide in you. This will also provide you with the means to identify his strengths and weaknesses. The regular one-on-one session with your child will build his trust in you and motivate him to “do right”. You will observe an amazing transformation in the manner he will respond to your requests.
- Explain What’s Happening
Having healthy discussions with your child actually helps once your mutual bonding has developed, and his bad behavior is taken care of. You can initiate any discussion, like the one about telling your child that when he’s sad, you want to help him out with those feelings and with whatever is troubling him. Provide him the assurance that you will help him by working together as a team, to solve the problems that come up. If you start giving proper explanation to your children, about the reason you want them to do something, there are good chances of them following suit, instead of ignoring.
- Expect Emotions
It’s very important to realize that whatever behavior the child displays, is actually the manifestations of the emotions that he cannot express verbally. Once you understand the logical reason behind the child’s activity, you can easily wipe out the root or heal the disturbing emotions, and the child won’t be inclined to behave in that way any longer. This is one of the most useful keys to peaceful parenting, through which the child learns to manage emotions, and therefore behavior when provided with the needed love and guidance.
- Keep Setting Limits
When children feel understood, they’re more likely to accept your prescribed limits. Flexibility on your part is good, but you’ll still need to set enough limits in order to maintain your child’s overall behavior. Try to set the limit before you get angry, and while you are still your humorous best in order to be empathetic to your child’s perspective. Acknowledging their views is what motivates a child to be cooperative with you. While it’s necessary to enforce your rules, you can also acknowledge their perspective.
You’ll now find yourself on a route that leads to a more peaceful family, so enjoy this journey!